Sex on your period: Fact or Fiction?

Sex during periods. As a CHECs Counselor, I am asked about this subject a lot. Do other couples do it? How does it work? Will I get pregnant? I’ve come to realize that there are a lot of myths and halve truths floating around out here, so I’m going to try to set the record straight…

Can you have sex on your period? Yes! Once you are in a relationship, menstruation is something that happens to both of you. So it’s important to communicate openly about how you feel.  This means checking in with your partner about how she is feeling during her period.  For many women, desire for sex changes during different times of her cycle. For example, she might experience increased desire during menstruation or ovulation, it depends. So make sure to talk about it, so everyone is on the same page to start.

Is having sex on your period bad for you? No! Having sex while one or more partners are on their period is not harmful. In fact, there are a few ways in which it might be helpful! First, the contractions of orgasm might help relieve menstrual cramping. Second, sex might feel particularly great because the vagina is super lubricated due to menstrual secretions. If you are worried about the aesthetics of it, you can always throw down a towel first and then go for it!

Can I get pregnant if I’m on my period? Yes! If you have unprotected vaginal intercourse during your period, it is possible to get pregnant.  Much of this has to do with the fact that sperm can live in the vagina for up to five days. So depending on when the egg is released, sperm could be present to fertilize it.

Are other people doing it? Who cares! It’s a personal decision, so I cannot stress enough– Talk with your partner and see how they feel. Many couples have had the same conversation. If nothing else it can be another opportunity to get to know your partner and their likes, dislikes and comfort level.